1. Start with a story

What was a moment that defined what kind of person they were? Begin with a few sentences telling that story—that’s how you’ll capture people’s hearts. 

2. Announce the death

The details of their passing can follow next. When did they die? Where? What was the cause (if you want to discuss that)? 

3. Tell where they grew up and why that mattered

Everyone’s life has a beginning, date, and place of birth. Who raised them? Where? How did their early days point toward their life to follow? 

4. Tell what they loved

What got them excited? A hobby or a cause, an accomplishment, or an appreciation—what did they talk about the most? Faith, music, work, charity, family life? Share whatever it is that they’d be eager to tell someone about. Also think about more intimate details that will keep them alive in memory: quirks, favorite passions, oft-heard quotes, travels, food, or unusual pursuits. Keep an eye out for moments that speak eloquently of their humanity, kindness, zest for life or even their cranky disposition—whatever fits. 

5. Tell whom they loved

Almost everyone had someone in their life, sometimes, who meant the world to them. Whether that’s a spouse, children, parents, a best friend, or a dear teacher—take a few words and remember the relationships that were the most important to them and why. 

6. Tell what you’ll remember most about them

What was a moment that defined what kind of person they were? Begin with a few sentences telling that story—that’s how you’ll capture people’s hearts. 

7. Share those who survive and those who preceded your loved one in death

Who came before them? Who are the ones continuing their legacy? Take a moment to highlight these family members.

8. Share the memorial service arrangements

When and where will the funeral and/or memorial services be held? Where will the burial be held? Any other service-related details? And what charitable donations, family support, or other special arrangements, if any, are being requested?